Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Long Distance Relationship

Long Distance Relationship

Many people say that being in a long distance relationship is sucks.. It is true but there are also benefits of having a long distance relationship. Today I want to encourage those who are in a long distance relationship that it doesn’t always have to be sucks. There are things that also good in a long distance relationship:
-You will not take that person for granted. You will value each moment that you spend together. I remember when Austin was here for 2 weeks, everyday felt so special. Even casual things such as having lunch together, doing my work, going to church felt so special. (Writing this makes me miss him so much..)
-It helps you to keep your purity. I don’t know about you, but it is a struggle to almost every couple to remain pure while they’re dating. When I say pure, it’s not only “not having sex before marriage”, but it’s also anything close to that (Fondling, Caressing, etc). I always view long distance relationships as blessings in disguise (It is really a blessing because it is so much harder when you live in the same city!). Austin and I
have the same love language. We both express our love by spending our quality time together. By having a long distance relationship, we always (or in this case, we can only) spend our quality time by talking over the phone. We spend more time to get to know each other by communicating instead of having physical touch.
-It helps you to be productive. When you live in the same city, it is easy to get caught up in the relationship. You always want to spend time with that person; you always want to do things together with that person. I find this long distance relationship as a gift for me to be productive. Well, there are times that I’m not productive because I miss him too much that I can’t stop crying. But, most of the times I can focus on my work and ministry because we live far away from each other. I don’t spend my Saturday nights watching a movie at the theatre or hanging out at the mall with him. I spend my Saturdays with my family or doing work or doing ministry.
-Last but not least, you become more dependent on Christ! When you’re in a long distance relationship, you can’t always run to that person every time you have a problem or when you’re feeling sad. I find myself becoming more dependent on God and surrendered to Him in this long distance relationship. Since we are separated by distance and time, I can’t always talk to Austin whenever I need comfort or counsel. Christ is the One and the first place that I run to every time I’m feeling sad, tired or worried. Even if Austin is around, I know that Christ should be the One that I depend on. However, it is easy for me to try to seek for comfort from Austin when he is around. I can easily be dependent on him instead of Christ. So, this long distance relationship is a training ground for me to be dependent on Christ and only Him. He is my all in all.

By saying all of the things above, it doesn’t mean that if you’re not in a long distance relationship then you will take the person you’re dating for granted or it is impossible for
you to keep yourself pure! No, not at all! This is just me giving an encouragement to those who are in a long distance relationship that you can view it in a different way. That
it doesn’t always have to sound so bad. I know it is not easy, especially if you’ve done it for a long time.. But, it’s worth it (Well, depends on who you’re dating! Haha. Of course it’s worth it if you’re dating the person that is pleasing to God). The point is, be patient. Patience is not just the ability to wait; it is also how you act while you’re waiting. I hope all those things above can help you to have the right attitude while you’re waiting. For those who live in the same city with your future spouse then don’t take them for granted. Be grateful for them. Ask God’s grace to keep you pure. Stay productive. Keep relying on God. Whatever kind of situation that your relationship is in right now, Always put Jesus at the center of your relationship!


Xoxo,



Yemima Hutapea 

Friday, September 22, 2017

Set-Apart Woman (True Purity)

"True Purity is so much more than a Christian rule to endure. True purity is so much more than the noble decision to wait for a future spouse. True purity is complete set-apartness for our heavenly Prince. True purity comes only when we fall into the loving arms of our Jesus Christ, surrender ourselves fully to Him, and allow Him to tenderly shape us into His likeness." -Leslie Ludy from Authentic Beauty.


I can't agree more with Leslie on this definition of true purity. "Purity" is not the most favorite topic for young people. As a matter of fact, the topic of purity sounds too serious and boring for them. It makes sense. In this modern era, having purity is something that is not common. People will think that there's something wrong with you that causes you to keep your purity. When I first told someone that I had never kissed anybody, she was like "What? Why?" she didn't get it because nowadays, when you're dating someone, kissing is just considered as shaking hands.. For me, I want to keep my purity for the right one (my husband)..


But purity is more than just not kissing anyone. Purity is about the heart. It's about guarding your heart. I might have not kissed anyone, but purity goes beyond that. Many times, I almost let go of my heart to someone that's not ready to have it.. But thank God, He stopped me from doing it. Girls, I want to encourage you to guard your heart. It is the most valuable thing that God has given to us. Many people will try to steal your heart. However, the right person will not just steal your heart, but instead he will ask God for it :)


I am so thankful that I kept my heart for my husband-to-be. Instead, I just gave my heart to God and let Him put it in the right hand. Now, it is secured in the right man. Haha. I just don't know how it will be if God has not put it in the right person. My heart will be tossed and burnt.


Ladies, nothing is too late. If you already gave your heart away in the past, God can give you a new heart if you're willing to fully surrender to Him. Stop trying so hard to find a guy for you. I'm not saying that you should sit around and do nothing. But, hear what I'm saying, God knows your heart more than anyone.. He knows the best person for you. Just give your heart to Him and He will put it in someone else's heart that is ready to cherish you, just like what He did to me :) Don't ever give your heart away before giving it first to Jesus Christ, our First & True Lover.






xoxo,




Yemima H

Sunday, August 6, 2017

Enough is enough.

These past few weeks the devil has attacked my mind in the area of self-image.. I just feel like I don't look good enough, I'm not beautiful, I'm not attractive and so on.. I realize that I have to make a bold decision. I have to unfollow "fashion bloggers" on my Instagram that have been a big influence in my life.. I know it's hard to not be wanting to look good in this era. Everything around us just bombards us with the message of "buy this product, it will make your skin glow. Drink this vitamin, it will make you look younger" and the list goes on.. I am powerless to stop that ads. I know we're just gonna be fed with those kinds of thing everyday.. The choice is on us. Do we wanna buy those lies or not? I'm not saying that all beauty companies are liars.. some products do really work! But, do we want to be defined by them? Until when are we gonna be satisfied? The truth is, we're never gonna be satisfied unless we find our identity in Christ. I grew up in the entertainment industry. I started modeling when I was a baby! I remember being a model of a baby product. I just felt the need to always look good until I got to a point where my heart screamed "enouuugh!!" I can't live like that anymore.. I can't keep up with this world. I can't keep up with the latest beauty products. I can't keep up with the latest fashion style. I just can't keep up with the trends. I know that I'm still a part of this entertainment industry but I really can't be like the (most) people in this industry.. if not keeping up with the latest trends/fads is causing me to be left behind, then it is better for me to be left behind in this world rather than being left behind in my spiritual life.. I'm sorry if this post sounds so intense, I just can't help it anymore. If you're a fashion blogger/a beauty blogger, I still love you ❤️ this is not your fault, this is just something that happens in this fallen world. I know some beauty bloggers who are still real and honest on their posts.. beauty is not on the outside but beauty is in your mind and heart.

Xoxo,


Yemima H.

Thursday, July 20, 2017

Inner Beauty vs Outer Beauty

There are so many technologies for beauty nowadays. Eyelashes extension, face-lift, eyebrows tattoo, skin-whitening, body-fat removal. The list goes on and on.. Women nowadays are striving to achieve perfection. Don't get me wrong, I love looking beautiful. I love beautiful things.  But, too many times we work hard to look beautiful on the outside and we forget to take care of our inner beauty.


When was the last time we got jealous of someone? When was the last time we hurt someone with our words? When was the last time we thought of negative thoughts towards someone? When was the last time we desired earthly things/earthly romance? I asked those questions to myself as well.. We can't let our heart wander around by itself. We can't expect to have a clean heart without cleaning our heart each day. It's like we're expecting to have clean skin/face but we never wash them.I've been disciplining myself to take care of my heart more than anything else. Don't wash your face every morning before having a quiet time with The Lord. If you clean your face with so many skin treatments (face wash, lotion, toner, etc) Why don't we clean our hearts with The Word of God over and over? There's this bible app that has helped me a lot to take care of my heart. You can download it on your iphone/iPad/any gadgets (haha I'm not sponsored by Apple) and you can choose the devotional readings that you want. Girls, let's pay more attention to our inner beauty more than anything else. For it says in Proverbs 4:13 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." Our life springs out from our heart. Therefore, guard your heart. Above all else, above beauty itself.